Support for LGBTQ+ Couples, Faith-Based Partnerships, Co-Parents, & Anyone Seeking Deeper Connection
Couples & Relationship Therapy
Rebuild, Reconnect, Revitalize: Couples Therapy That Works
Relationships ask a lot of us—often, things that seem to contradict each other. We want the familiarity of family and the mystery that ignites our desire. Security and spontaneity. Intimacy and autonomy. We expect our partner to be our best friend, co-parent, confidant, and romantic other… sometimes all in one breath.
That’s a lot for any relationship to hold. And over time, life puts these ideals to the test. Parenthood. Career shifts. Unspoken resentments. Disconnection. Betrayals. Even just the slow erosion of intimacy that comes from not knowing how to talk about the hard stuff.
I offer couples therapy for exactly these moments. Not just to fix what’s broken, but to hold space for all that’s complex and messy and still worth fighting for.
How I Work With Couples
No two couples are the same. That’s why I integrate several research-based approaches to meet your relationship where it is—whether you’re struggling with communication, feeling disconnected, working to rebuild trust after betrayal, facing challenges with intimacy, or just feeling stuck in painful, repeating patterns that won’t budge.
Here’s a closer look at how I work in practice:
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Couples often get caught in cycles; familiar dances where one partner shuts down, and the other pursues harder. Or one criticizes, and the other retreats. These emotional patterns can create distance, resentment, and disconnection in a relationship.
In our sessions, we’ll map out these cycles together and begin to slow them down. I’ll help you tune into what’s happening beneath the surface, like hurt, fear, or longing, and guide you in sharing those feelings in ways that foster connection instead of disconnection.
The goal is to help you both feel safer with each other emotionally, so you can shift from reactivity and distance into a more secure, responsive bond. EFT isn’t just about fixing fights. It’s about us helping you create a relationship where you both feel more seen, supported, and deeply connected.
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In my work with couples, I use the Gottman Method to provide science-backed tools that help you tackle the real challenges in your relationship. This method is about giving you concrete, actionable strategies for improving communication, resolving conflict, and rebuilding trust.
What makes this approach so effective is its focus on small, everyday moments. In our sessions, we’ll dive into the daily bids for connection; the gestures, words, and actions that either bring you closer or unintentionally push you apart. I’ll guide you in learning how to respond in ways that build emotional resilience, turning these moments into opportunities to strengthen your bond.
We’ll also explore conflict management tools that help prevent gridlock and encourage empathy, while fostering a culture of appreciation so both partners feel seen, heard, and valued.
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In my work with couples, I draw from Esther Perel’s insights to help partners rekindle the spark that often fades under the weight of routines, responsibilities, and long-term commitment. When relationships shift into the roles of co-parents or roommates, passion and desire can quietly slip away—leaving couples feeling more connected as teammates than as lovers.
In our sessions, we’ll explore how everyday roles and emotional closeness might be impacting your erotic connection. I’ll guide you in identifying what stifles desire—like predictability, over-functioning, or a lack of personal space—and help you bring back elements of mystery, curiosity, and play.
Together, we’ll carve out space for intimacy that isn’t just emotional, but also erotic. That might mean creating rituals of connection, reimagining the sexual dynamic, or rediscovering each other outside of the roles you’ve grown used to. The goal is to help you feel not just safe, but also desired. Reigniting passion while maintaining the trust and closeness you’ve built.
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In my work with couples, I take a systems-based approach—seeing the relationship itself as the client. Rather than focusing on who’s to blame, we look at the dynamic you’ve built together: the patterns, roles, and emotional feedback loops that shape how you connect, react, and repair.
In our sessions, we’ll zoom out to understand how each partner’s behavior affects the other—and how even small shifts can ripple through the entire system. We’ll explore how moments of connection (like warmth, presence, or attunement) and moments of disconnection (like criticism or withdrawal) interact to create the larger emotional climate between you.
This approach helps couples move from individual frustration to shared insight. Together, we’ll work on changing the system itself so that both of you feel more supported, responsive, and aligned in your relationship.
Who I Work With
I work with couples at all stages of their relationship—whether you’re in deep distress or simply hoping to grow, reconnect, or prepare for what’s next. Some of the couples I support include:
Premarital and newly committed couples building a strong foundation for lasting connection
Parents juggling the demands of family life, where communication and intimacy often take a backseat
Couples healing from infidelity or betrayal, working to rebuild trust and emotional safety
Partners who feel more like roommates than lovers, longing to rekindle desire and closeness
High-conflict couples caught in cycles of criticism, defensiveness, disconnection or even silence
Faith-based couples wanting to integrate spiritual values and practices into their relationship
LGBTQ+ and neurodiverse couples, seeking affirming therapy that honors your unique dynamic
What Relationship Therapy With Me Feels Like
Through our work together, you'll learn practical skills and techniques to manage conflicts, deepen emotional intimacy, and reignite the spark in your relationship. My space invites tears, laughter, new perspectives, and self-compassion; an environment where you can freely express your feelings and concerns without fear of judgment or criticism. Therapy you grow out of. Change you keep. Together, we'll navigate challenges, strengthen your relationship, and create a healthier, more evolved partnership built on trust, commitment, understanding, and mutual support. Most clients see improvement within a month and continual progress thereafter.
Answering Your Toughest Relationship Questions
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Many couples face moments where one partner feels distant or disconnected. It can feel like your relationship is at the brink of falling apart. However, even if one partner feels unsure, it’s still possible to rebuild emotional intimacy and find common ground. Therapy can help you explore the underlying emotions and issues at play, allowing you both to decide if you want to fight for the relationship or find a way to part respectfully.
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It’s common for couples to feel discouraged if past therapy hasn’t worked. Finding the right therapist can feel daunting, especially with the weight of your relationship on the line. Therapy is most effective when both partners feel comfortable and trust the therapist they choose. That’s why I offer an initial consultation, giving us the chance to assess if we’re a good fit and if my approach resonates with your relationship. I tailor my methods to meet the unique needs of each couple, focusing on creating lasting change, not just surface-level solutions. The right therapeutic fit is essential to making meaningful progress and building a healthier, more connected relationship.
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Couples therapy doesn’t promise a lifelong love story, but what it can offer is hope—hope to rebuild, reconnect, and grow. For some couples, therapy provides the clarity to move forward with conviction, whether that means building a stronger relationship or learning how to part ways respectfully and healthily.
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It’s common for couples to feel like they’re speaking different languages when it comes to their relationship. One partner might feel misunderstood, and the other might feel unheard. That’s where I come in; to assess, guide, and steer you in the right direction, helping you uncover the patterns that contribute to the challenges you’re facing and teaching you how to communicate more effectively with one another.
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It's natural for couples to wonder if their differences are too much to overcome. One of the things we do in therapy is explore each partner's 'operating system'—the ways you each navigate the world, what motivates you, and how your unique perspectives shape your emotions and behavior. Understanding these differences can create powerful bridges towards connection. Often, the very qualities that initially attracted you to each other — those differences — can later become sources of conflict. But these differences also hold meaningful potential. By learning to navigate them together, you can turn what feels challenging into an opportunity for growth and deeper understanding.
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My job is to work myself out of a job. Most couples start with weekly sessions to address immediate concerns, but, as progress is made, therapy tends to shift to bi-weekly or monthly. Many couples see noticeable improvements within the first month, with deeper, more lasting changes happening as therapy continues.
The duration of couples therapy can vary depending on your unique situation and goals. Some couples find that a few sessions are enough to resolve a specific issue or gain insight into their relationship, while others may benefit from ongoing therapy over a longer period to address deeper patterns and build lasting changes.
Sessions typically last 50 minutes, and the goal is for you to feel confident and equipped to navigate challenges on your own—long after our work together ends.